Do you know the cleaning lady’s name?
“During my second month of nursing school, my professor gave us a pop quiz.
I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions,
until I read the last one: “What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?” Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times.
She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50s, but how would I know her name? I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade. “Absolutely,” said the professor. “In your careers you will meet many people.
All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say ‘hello’. I’ve never forgotten that lesson.
I also learned her name was Dorothy.”
This story stays with me on so many levels. It expresses a very valuable message, to always value each human – actually I would add any sentient being – you come into contact with equally, but my question for today is this…
If I had simply wrote to you and said ‘you should value everyone’….
do you think it would have had the same effect as me telling you the above story?
I doubt it. You are much more likely to remember this and hence its message BECAUSE of the story. Remember, we have been telling stories since the cave age days as a means of communication, so it must work.
You see when you listen to a story, it activates all the areas of our brain associated with experiencing an event. All your relative senses light up, it puts your brain to work!
When you hear a story you relate it to one of your own experiences, so it activates a part of your brain called ‘Insula’, which helps you to then relate to the pain, pleasure, horror, etc. And for anyone who has ‘worked’ with me before, you will know this means that your subconscious brain is then ‘fooled’ into believing that it has actually happened, so it views it as much more significant and hence will come to mind more readily.
Now that you know this, you can also use this to effect with others, right?
Your language will dictate the result.
Tell them a story of someone and get them to ‘experience’ what it would be like for them also to have this desired outcome.
Your language plays a vital role in the outcome for you or others.
So use your words with care and clarity.
If you want to learn more about the art of communication and discover how some words
such as TRY, SHOULD, BUT and BECAUSE have ‘magical powers’, then get to my next Workshop – Click here to find out more!
You see, sometimes you have to think ‘outside the box’ and take action on a new approach if you want new results!
This is going to challenge your comfort zone but I promise the rewards are worth it.
It just takes a new way of thinking…and that’s what I am here to express to you.
Mmmm… how about another story to show you what I mean? 😉
‘A bus is stuck under a low bridge after the driver makes a mistake and takes the wrong turning. No one is hurt but all the efforts of the fire fighters to pull the bus out are to no avail, it is firmly stuck. To try more could damage the bridge.
A young girl rides up on her bike to watch and says quietly to the Fire Chief
“Why don’t you just let the tyres down?’
The obvious is not always so obvious, right?!
To illustrate my point further… here is another example.
CLICK HERE you will be amazed!
You see..it’s all simply a matter of perspective, right?!
Go and stretch yours today!
Danielle Serpico x
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NLP Trainer with The Society of NLP
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