Everything is transient….
Today I am feeling down. Yes, it does happen, even to me.
BUT what I am CHOOSING to do now is to talk about it and in doing so, take you through my ‘process’ so that hopefully by the end of it, I feel better at least and maybe you might be able to use it also, if not right now at at least some other time…..
This is VERY uncomfortable for me and somewhat of a ‘risk’, seen as I am the guru of all things positive! But I want to be honest with you and I want you to really know who I am and understand my journey and how I am human also, and how you and I are very alike.
I could say nothing and just simply write more ‘positive’ stuff but I wouldn’t be true to how I am feeling right now. I wouldn’t be acting with integrity and I swore a while back that I wouldn’t do anything that compromised that. I promised myself that any time I felt fear then that is exactly what I was gonna face, it. So now I am feeling a little fear.
So….yes…I feel low. In a slump…down, depressed and miserable.
Okay.. so let me correct that, even though its tempting to just stay in this place, in a way its kinda comforting, as I don’t have to do anything. I guess I don’t have to take responsibility or ownership of it.
But okay, I know that I am feeling low at this moment…this doesn’t mean I will stay here in this place, does it? In fact, its not actually a place, is it? It’s a feeling that passing through me – like a wave – because I am thinking certain things. I’m thinking about certain events in the past while and how I have been treated. Okay okay, how I BELIEVE I have been treated. I could get up and go to the gym but I don’t feel like it. Right at this moment I think I prefer to wallow in it and prove myself right in my thoughts by confirming this with other events that have happened.
Mmmmm Confirmation Bias in full swing, I see…but I am enjoying in a sadistic way being right! Because people have been taking me for granted. Treating me badly. Yup, just walking over me!……or have they? Oh god, I have to ask this question don’t I? This is what I tell you to do! Question it, right? To make sure. BUT I kinda want to be right, it helps me feel vindicated and allows me to stay here sitting on the couch feeling content in my own misery.
But..come on, where will that get me???
Mmmm okay… look up and smile. What a load of C**P! Do I REALLY tell people to do this? Okay so, then do it. But I don’t want to, its ridiculous! Just DO IT!
Okay okay…fine stupid grin is on. Pheew..what a load of rubbish…its silly, I feel silly, its funny. Okay I’m laughing at myself now…or am I laughing with myself? Mmmmm…okay don’t really want to BUT I have to acknowledge a slight shift in mood.
Can I be sure people have been taking me for granted and treating me badly? What happened? Let’s look at an example.
The other day I lost my phone and had to borrow one to send a message. Someone I was with casually commented ‘I was being rude by being on the phone’. I looked up horrified to think he thought me rude, as I would hate anyone to think that of me. I apologized and re explained again, it was an emergency and I would just be a sec! He then casually said he was joking and looked at the other who had loaned me the phone, with a roll of his eyes, as if to say, can you believe she actually thought I was serious? The other patted me playfully on the head with her menu and told me to ‘chill out’ they were only joking. I carried on and finished my message but the event still played in my mind. Somehow, I didn’t feel good. I actually felt stupid or naive or vulnerable in some way. As though, I had been ‘played’ or ‘bullied’.
Had they bullied me consciously? Did they know what they were doing?…..
I don’t think so. Actually, when I really think about it, my bet is they really didn’t mean anything and where in fact simply joking! BUT it was my mood at the time that caused me to feel bad and misinterpret them. I had been thinking of the passing of my dog and was feeling vulnerable. They didn’t even know I was upset, why would they?!
Okay…so they were just joking, so I cant use that now as an excuse!
People are not being appreciative of what I do. They don’t reply. Message back. Thank me, etc, etc… Mmmm, is this true? God Danielle, this is a pain! Let me keep this thought!
Okay, its not true either. One person didn’t BUT that does not mean they don’t appreciate what I did, does it? Maybe, they have more on their mind, maybe they are busy with more pressing things, maybe they presume I know this. YUP, I do know this.
Okay… yes, I do know this. I really do.
In fact, it always comes clear at some point, like now. I do actually feel very loved and appreciated when I think of it. People have a lot of faith in me. My partner, my mum, my friends and my clients.
Mmmm, think I will have a read over my testimonials to remind myself of what ‘shifts’ I have made in people’s lives and how those shifts have also affected me. Because their transformation is always mine too…..
– Okay, time to prove it…get back up Danielle and fight!
Hi 🙂 I wrote that a few days ago and this is what I got the following morning…
Makes it all worthwhile. I am feeling really good today.
Yesterday, I went for a 30 minute run in the rain and felt awesome afterwards. Today I am heading to the gym and then to see my Mum and Stepdad for his Birthday. Tomorrow, I have a client ready to step up and make changes, then a radio interview and then a quality evening with my partner and my family before I head to London on Tuesday, for some updated training with Richard Bandler and to see my little sis Annalaura!
So, things all in all are really good. I guess the main message in this letter to you is..
All things are transient, including your moods. They simply wash over you like waves but just like waves they ebb and flow, sometimes they engulf you and then they drift away.
Your thoughts will dictate your mood, so keep your focus on what helps you feel good. Appreciate the moment you are in right now, be mindful by simply breathing deep and taking time to be grateful for what abundance you have in your life.
I know that my happiness comes from my heart and feeling love. It also comes from loving what I do, my writing, my art and my work with incredible people like you reading this. I know that when I am in this moment that is when I feel most free and most joyful. When I am not trying to hold on is when I can really let go.
So I will leave you in this moment with this video. It conveys my sentiments exactly.
Enjoy your day and your moment of freedom.
Love Danielle x
Your Mind, Life & NLP Coach
Wicklow, Dublin, Ireland & Worldwide.
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