YOU are my HERO…
The BlackBelt MasterMind Book and today’s Post is inspired by all the past heroes in our world…
I wrote The Blackbelt Mastermind http://www.amazon.co.uk/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_0_13/276-5460594-3859400?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=the%20blackbelt%20mastermind&sprefix=the+blackbelt%2Caps%2C166 originally to convey one main message.
That message is to ‘NEVER GIVE UP’ and that we all possess at any time one BIG secret that gives us incredible super powers. That thing is ….CHOICE.
In my book I tell you how once we accept we have Choice then we have internal Control.
Today I write to you because sometimes we cant always control outside influences quite as well and it requires other ‘Heart’ and ‘Mind’ muscles to be used, so that we have strength, passion and courage.
I watched the news yesterday – which I don’t do very often, as I really find it very detrimental – it was full of stories about war and suffering, and I watched a tribute programme, commemorating all the war veterans from the 1st world war. It moved me immensely to think of those souls, whom for whatever reason, went out over the trenches, and fell to their death. My partners grandfather fought in this war and survived. An Irish man, Sergeant William Ellis. He came home but his visible and not so visible scars conveyed a harsh tale of wars effect.
Whether you accept the necessity for war or not, I know it is a very sensitive subject and while I don’t ‘technically’ agree or condone war, I am aware of our deeper instinct to survive, to belong and mostly to fight for our loved ones or what we believe in. Even if this view is tainted or subjective, we sometimes ACT based on huge overwhelming emotions triggered either by propaganda, some deep rooted belief or sometimes simply for love.
This ACT that we do, sometimes is considered right and sometimes wrong. I am not here to judge or pass opinions but simply to acknowledge that something overwhelming in us causes us at times to ACT. I am here to simply discuss what is good and what is bad and what makes us at times perform heroic acts of courage, strength and humanity.
Research has uncovered many answers to the question of what makes us sometimes turn bad or even do acts of evil. Dehumanization, authority, propaganda and the media, unjust systems, false responsibility, peer pressure, moral disengagement and detachment are some of them.
When it comes to good acts or acts of heroism, it is harder to pinpoint why we do it. Neuro-economist Paul Zak’s research has shown that when we produce higher levels of Oxytocin otherwise known as the ‘love’ hormone, we are more likely to perform acts of heroism.
Heroism has been described in many ways but it generally comes down to being defined as an act with some or all of these characteristics. It is performed in service of others, either a person, group, or community or in defence of a particular ideal. A heroic act is one that comes with possible risks and costs, either to one’s physical health or reputation and in which one is willing to accept this sacrifice. Also, it is done without anticipating any gain.
So, the key to heroism is a concern for other people in need, a concern to defend a moral cause knowing there is a personal risk and done without expectation of reward.
I recently listened to an Audio book on the Psychology of Evil, and it discussed an important point on heroism, that the very same situation that could inflame the hostile imagination in some, causing them to do evil acts, could also instil the heroic imagination in others, effecting them to perform heroic deeds. What causes some to choose one path and others another?
Research shows that there is no clear line between good and evil. Instead, the line is permeable; people can cross back and forth over it and it is all based on a sentence I regularly spout over and over. You may have heard me say this before….
The Map is not the Territory.
Let me show you how by looking at this image…and notice what you see… What did you notice first?
Depending on how you squint you may have seen angels or demons.
You see our world is subjective and tainted by all we have learnt and experienced and that is how we will perceive it. There is good and bad, dark and light, yin and yang in all aspects of our human nature. We all are born with the capacity to be anything and because of our incredible brains, anything that we imagine can become possible, anything that we think can become an action, for better or for worse.
We are all born with this capacity to be anything, and we get shaped by our circumstances and upbringing. So while we have the capacity to do terrible things we all also possess an inner hero. We have a built in ‘call to action’. We regularly ‘sacrifice’ for the good of others that we love. These heroes may be parents, teachers and leaders. You are likely to be one of these, in fact I am pretty sure that you are. Being a leader is something I believe we all can be. Leading the way is something I believe is our duty and there is always a difference you can make through your words and actions. I believe very much in the saying ‘A leader does what is right, not what is popular.’
Sometimes this takes guts and strength to follow this creed. Standing up to a bully, not agreeing with your boss as a matter of principle, helping someone or something that needs your help at the risk of not being part of the gang.
I am a huge animal lover and I believe our moral compass and empathy for other sentient souls is something that can and should be nurtured and developed and encouraged. Disassociating and detaching for ease and comfort is the easiest way for us to stray from the path of what’s right. Sometimes being uncomfortable is necessary for growth and for a change to happen. I believe that people who treat animals cruelly have detached from their ‘moral compass’ and the more this is instilled the worse it can potentially become.
Therefore, I believe teaching our young how to live with value and integrity. How to have compassion, empathy and develop their moral compass and compassion for all living creatures is necessary.
This is why I am starting a ‘Hero Club’, because I believe heroes are most effective not alone but in a network. It’s through forming a network that people have the resources to bring their heroic impulses to life. I believe that you are a true hero. I believe this because you are reading this. This means to me that you care about your development and that of others.
Therefore, I am now going to challenge you…and of course myself. I hope we can develop our Hero muscle together. I challenge you to notice the ‘everyday hero. The ‘normal’ person who is struggling to survive. The parents, the teachers, the educators and the volunteers. The person that stands up and gives voice and says ‘that’s not right’. Lets celebrate them, thank them and join them. Lets show others through our actions that we will make this world a better place. A more kind, humane and compassionate one.
My 10 day Challenge is this….Join me on facebook here https://www.facebook.com/theblackbeltmastermind and tell me what you have or will do or what someone you love has done. Take the challenge and take responsibility for this world we all live in. You never know we may even enjoy it 😉 In fact…. I am giving you a gift also!
Post your heroic feats for 10 days running (no matter how small you think they are) or that of your loved ones around you.
It will all help inspire others! For your participation, I am going to send you my book,The Blackbelt Mastermind…… for FREE!
I will end with the words of the poet, John Donne….
“No man (or woman of course) is an island entire of itself. Every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main. Any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind. And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.”
So, lets take action together, for you are my Hero x
Your Mind & NLP Life Coach
Wicklow/ Dublin/ Ireland
‘Change your mind and Change your life!’